Speaking on the airwaves of Fafaa 100.3 FM, marriage counselor, Rev. Theresa Governor Seke has emphasized that the true foundation of a lasting marriage is not merely a formal agreement between two people but the genuine motives and intentions behind the union.
Rev. Seke noted that many marriages today are established solely on agreements and most of these unions collapse because there is no underlying covenant or true motive guiding the relationship. She further explained that some people marry simply because the man is a husband or he has money and can support them in trade, business, or other ventures. Others enter marriage because they are facing personal challenges and hope to gain emotional or financial support from a spouse. According to her, such decisions do not lead to lasting marriages because they are not grounded in sincere motives or a covenantal commitment.
She also stated that some people go into marriage based on agreements such as “let me give you this support so that we can marry each other.” She stressed that this is not the right decision to marry because most marriages established solely on such agreements eventually collapse.
She explained that marriage is a sacred institution from God and should be seen as a covenant between the couple. Highlighting the biblical story of Adam and Eve, she said, “God said, ‘Let me make a helper for Adam who will perfectly match him.’ This phrase represents the covenant and when Adam saw that there was a helper beside him who truly complemented him, he said, ‘Now I am satisfied.’”
According to Rev. Seke, marriages rooted in sincere motives and Godly covenants are more likely to thrive, overcome challenges, and bring lasting fulfillment to both partners. She urged couples and those preparing for marriage to focus on the intentions, purpose, and covenantal commitments behind their unions rather than relying solely on formal agreements, social expectations, material benefits, or immediate personal needs.
She further encouraged couples to cultivate honesty, mutual respect, and shared spiritual values in their relationships. By doing so, she said, couples can build marriages that are not only legally recognized but also spiritually grounded, emotionally fulfilling, and enduring through life’s challenges.
Rev. Seke also highlighted the importance of guidance and mentorship in marriage, advising young couples to seek counsel from experienced and spiritually minded individuals. “A marriage with clear motives and a covenantal foundation is like a house built on rock. It stands strong even in storms,” she stated.
She reminded listeners that marriage is a divine partnership. Couples should prioritize God’s purpose and their genuine intentions above all else, ensuring that their unions are built to last and reflect the sacred covenant God intended for humanity.
Rev. Seke noted that couples should also spend time understanding each other’s personal goals, dreams, and values before entering marriage. This, she said, allows partners to align their motives and build a strong foundation that is not shaken by financial pressures, family disagreements, or societal expectations.
She also advised that pre marital counseling and spiritual preparation are essential tools for a successful marriage. According to her, these practices help couples recognize the difference between temporary attractions and lasting motives, equipping them to face challenges with patience, love, and mutual respect.
Lastly, Rev. Seke encouraged married couples to continually revisit the motives behind their union. She stated that when couples actively nurture the covenant they share and remain intentional about their love and commitments, they are better able to sustain a healthy, fulfilling, and God centered marriage for life.
By Hutor Dziwornu, Fafaa 100.3 FM, Dzodze